7 Things to look for in a life partner

The term “life partner” is really powerful, it’s that one person who’s going to spend the rest of his/her life with you, who’s going to share the happiness, the sorrow, the anger, the hatred, the success and the failures with you throughout. A lot of people are getting pretty picky these days with who they choose to spend their life with, to make things a little simple let me tell you something very honestly – perfect relationships and perfect partners DO NOT exist in the real world. Whoever you choose to spend your life with is going to have a lot of flaws, but it’s the way they make you feel, the way they make you smile, the way they help you get through your troubled times is what makes them worth everything. I’ve compiled a list of common traits, a list of things to look for in a life partner. Let’s begin.

7. They’re open and straightforward

If you’ve found someone who’s completely open and straightforward with you, you’ve found the one. In today’s world, some people would become someone else just to impress you for a few days and then show you their true colors rather than show you who they really are and make you love their real selves. People who speak their minds, people who say how they feel, people who aren’t afraid of the truth no matter how much it hurts, these are the kind of people who are reliable and will stay with you through thick and thin.

6. They have time for you

In today’s world, people would rather tell you they’re busy than happily spend time with you. Find someone who’s generous with time, not someone who makes you wait and doesn’t respect your time. I always make sure I spend enough time with her, even if I’m busy, I take time off in between meetings just to see her face because it naturally makes me happy and she knows it. Time is one of the most precious gifts you can give someone, it’s priceless.

5. They can laugh at themselves

Find someone with a good sense of humor, someone who doesn’t take every little thing too seriously. Someone who doesn’t let every little joke get to them. People who can laugh at themselves are the most easy going people around and they make for the best partners, and I speak from personal experience. You can’t be with someone who’s too sensitive, because you may unintentionally hurt them someday.

4. They can empathize

Truly compassionate people are the best, people who listen to you and try their best to empathize with you. There’s an abundance of insensitive people in the world, people who think emotions are a waste of time, trust me, I know a few. Your life partner should be able to understand your sorrows and feel your pain, your life partner should be someone who always tries putting your shoes on just to see what it feels like in them.

3. They learn from their mistakes

Be with someone who doesn’t mind admitting to mistakes. People who can openly say “I admit, I was wrong” and then learn from their mistakes, never to make those same mistakes again. Don’t be with someone who always tries to blame others or changes the topic or just stays quiet. There’s no shame in admitting it when you do something wrong and it’s divine to ask for forgiveness, your life partner should be humble and down to earth who doesn’t think twice before apologizing.

2. Their past isn’t a mystery

It’s a blessing to actually find someone who’s completely transparent with you about everything. You know everything about their past, you know about the psychotic ex, you know about the family issues, you know it all, no one in the world can try and cause problems between you two because you know it all already, but it’s not easy finding someone like that because it’s very scary sharing so much with someone and people would rather lie to you to keep you than tell you the truth in the fear of losing you.

1.  They don’t mind crying

This one is more towards the guys. All my life, I’ve gotten nothing but judgement from “friends and family” on how I shouldn’t cry because apparently “it’s weak to cry”, IT’S NOT. Crying is one of the most emotional habits in the world. By crying, you’re not only relieving yourself of the pain, but you’re also avoiding the anger it’ll turn into if you don’t cry and keep it in. Tears held, for whatever reason, turn into rage and come out a totally different way. Be with someone who doesn’t think it’s weak to cry, because it’s only human to cry and be emotional.

Your turn

Would you guys like to add anything to the list? Let the know in the comments below. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!